Not forgiving is not protection, but a punishment you give yourself!

Holding onto pain that eats you up inside — this is not a victory. It is not moving forward in life, but rather choosing to live with pain. You may interpret not forgiving as “I’m protecting myself.” Because it’s natural not to trust someone who hurt you. But realizing that you're depriving yourself of freedom through this — isn’t easy.

This pain may come from a feeling of injustice, a heart that needs protection, or an emotional wound. And you keep holding it without letting it go. But it’s also important to acknowledge that recognizing and forgiving is the only way to healing.

Forgiveness is not giving up on something. It’s not justifying anyone. It doesn’t mean that the person who hurt you was right. Forgiveness, first of all, is the greatest gift — peace — that you give to yourself.

Let’s look at some common misconceptions about forgiveness:

1. Forgiveness doesn’t mean accepting he was “right”. Forgiving someone doesn’t mean you see their actions as correct. You’re not accepting injustice — you’re choosing not to store the pain inside.

2. Forgiveness is a gift not for them, but for you. That person will continue on their path. But not forgiving holds pain and anger in your heart. Waking up with that pain, sleepless nights, and looking at life with distrust — all of this harms only you.

3. Forgiveness is not weakness. On the contrary, it requires great inner strength. A weak person can’t let go of anger. A strong person recognizes the pain, accepts it, and releases it.

4. Forgiveness is unlocking emotional blocks. Every grudge, every wound held in the heart — these are inner blocks. They prevent you from moving in the right direction in life.

Changing perspective — is the first and most important step toward forgiveness. If you view the situation from the lens of “what did this teach me?” or “what did I realize through this?” — forgiveness becomes easier.

At the same time, forgiveness gives you a second chance. It leads you to lightness. It opens the door to feel free, clean, and peaceful.

In conclusion, living without forgiving is like staying enslaved to the past. But forgiveness is choosing freedom. And that choice is a process repeated every day, every minute, with every emotion. If you can forgive — you are someone who has breathed anew and planted a seed of compassion in your heart. Read 'Zamin' on Telegram!