The duration of healthy and happy family relationships is often measured by the famous saying "love fades after three years." However, experts consider this view to be too simplified, even incorrect.
Crisis psychologist Valentin Alimov, speaking at the NSN press center, said that the longevity of a relationship depends primarily on the psychological maturity of both spouses. He emphasized that it is also important to understand what is meant by "love" or "love": someone might perceive it as a strong passion, while someone might perceive it as trust, responsibility, and cooperation.
According to the expert, the more mature the couple, the less reason to believe that their relationship will last less than three years. Because mature people know how to build relationships not emotionally, but consciously: listening to each other, agreeing, discussing, and remaining a team even in difficult times - they establish these in a timely manner.
Alimov openly stated another important point: many people pay too much attention to relationships with the opposite sex, but this is only a consequence. The true "foundation" lies in a person's relationship with themselves. That is, a person who understands themselves, values themselves, and maintains inner balance is more ready to build stable, mature, and reliable relationships with another person.
Therefore, the psychologist's conclusion is very clear: if both parties are psychologically mature, it is completely inappropriate to accept the phrase "love lives for three years" as a rule.
Earlier, psychologist Olga Manukovskaya also shared interesting information at the NSN press center: people under 35 usually prefer to live together for about two to three years before marriage, while older people tend to make decisions faster.
In short, the lifespan of love depends not on a calendar, but on a person's inner maturity. Three years, ten years - that's not the question. Question: can two people hold themselves and each other "as adults" or not?
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